Bumps in the Road

DABVCuTlQ38Bumps in the road are rarely this literal.  To go from full-time husband to full-time caregiver of the wife I love, definitely took it’s turn.

One week ago, my wife broke her jaw while going down a hill at the park. Here’s her detailed account of how her week has been.

As for me, this has not been an easy week. But if I’ve learned one lesson from this experience, it’s “don’t complain.”

If I’m hungry, I shouldn’t complain because my wife can’t eat anything!  She just has to sip through a bendy straw.  Even soups can’t just be pureed they have to be liquify.

If I’m tired, I shouldn’t complain because my wife is having a hard time resting comfortably.

If I have a headache, I shouldn’t complain because my wife is experiencing about 10 times more pain than I am.

On a daily basis, my biggest concern is how to get all of my work done by the end of the day. Now, I have a lot more on my plate, since I am now my wife’s primary caregiver.

It’s funny. I’ve always avoided the use of the word “caregiver,” even though my wife uses a wheelchair. When people tell me to take good care of Jennifer, I tell them that she takes good care of me.

But for the next few months, I admit, I’m going to be her caregiver. That’s a big job. I’m not doing things for her constantly, but I have to be available 24/7.

So I just have to have faith that all of my work will eventually get finished. I can take care of my wife’s needs and please my bosses as well.

Aside from affecting Jen’s well-being, this accident also slows down a lot of our summer plans. She was supposed to teach with me at a summer camp, and we had to find a replacement.

Also, we are preparing to welcome a Chinese boy this fall to host him for his junior and senior years of high school. We have a lot of work to do on the house, and that work has come to a screeching halt.

Life always has bumps in the road. We’ll have faith in God and get over this bump.

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